One promise I made to myself — and have kept without compromise — is that I will never again allow anyone to abuse me in any form. Not verbally, not mentally, not emotionally, and certainly not physically.
I lived through an abusive marriage, and surviving that experience changed me. It taught me how easily mistreatment can become a pattern, how silence can become a trap, and how important it is to protect my own dignity. When I finally left, I made a vow to myself: No one will ever speak to me, treat me, or handle me in a way that tears me down again.
Today, I honor that promise. If someone raises their voice at me, if they try to belittle me, if they cross a boundary — I address it directly, calmly, and with the wisdom I’ve earned. And if the behavior continues, I walk away. I don’t negotiate with disrespect, and I don’t stay where my peace is threatened.
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you’ve cracked one of the codes to a happy life Betty. i’m glad you are in a much better place now and I don’t know why anyone would disrespect or abuse you! Mike
Thank you for your kind words, Mike! I greatly appreciate them!
Being free within makes for a happy life! Today, I can truly say I am in a much happier place. In the past, I was made a scapegoat for someone else’s misery, and because I wasn’t free enough within myself, I couldn’t defend against it. But that chapter is behind me now. I’ve moved on, and the freedom I’ve found within has given me strength, peace, and joy!
Actually, there is a thoughtful difference between forgiving somebody and giving them unlimited access to hurt or upset you again. And, your post captures that distinction beautifully.
Yes,there is a real difference between forgiving someone and allowing them continued access to you.
We all grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually at different rates. If a person’s development hasn’t reached the point where they can interact without causing harm, then yes — you can forgive them, but you do not have to allow them back into your physical or personal space. Forgiveness is grace; access is responsibility.
I appreciate you reading and engaging with the post, Rakesh! I value your feedback!
Thank you for expanding on that. It is a compassionate viewpoint that also honors personal dignity.
You’re welcome!
Your strength and courage are a beautiful example of valuing the life and peace God has given you. May He continue to bring healing, wisdom, and healthy relationships into your journey.
Thank you so much, Willie for your blessing! I appreciate that! I hope the same for you and your family as well! I appreciate your kind comments!🕊️🙏
You are very welcome…
Have a Safe, Wonderful and Blessed Weekend…
Thank you! Most likely until the smoke clears, I’ll be enjoying the indoors. Be safe. Enjoy the weekend!
Oh yeah… It was really bad here yesterday. Today is bad but it’s starting to clear up right now…
I’m glad it is starting to clear up there! Hopefully it will be over soon!
I hope so… Are you East or South of Illinois ?
East. I live in Maryland.
Oh ok… I would imagine we got it worse than you did since we are closer to the border. This year was the worse for these wildfires here…